INSPIRATIONAL PIECES VOLUME 5: WHEN LOVE TURNS DEADLYBREAKING FREE: EMPOWERING YOURSELF TO LEAVE ABUSIVE LOVE
By Ella Michaels
As we continue our series on "When Love Turns Deadly," we recognize that leaving an abusive relationship is one of the most challenging and courageous decisions a person can make. Breaking free from the toxic cycle of abuse requires immense strength, resilience, and support. In this article, we'll explore the complexities of abusive love, the signs that indicate it's time to leave, and the empowering strategies to help you break free and start anew.
*Understanding Abusive Love*
Abusive love is a subtle and insidious form of control, often disguised as affection, concern, or passion. It can take many forms, including emotional, physical, financial, and psychological abuse. The abuser may use manipulation, gaslighting, and coercion to maintain power and control over their partner.
*Signs It's Time to Leave*
Recognizing the signs of an abusive relationship is crucial to breaking free. Some common indicators include:
- Feeling trapped, isolated, or controlled
- Experiencing physical or emotional harm
- Being constantly criticized, belittled, or humiliated
- Having your boundaries disregarded or disrespected
- Feeling anxious, depressed, or suicidal
*Empowering Strategies to Break Free*
Leaving an abusive relationship requires a thoughtful and intentional approach. Here are some empowering strategies to help you break free:
1. *Seek Support*: Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a therapist who can provide emotional support and guidance.
2. *Create a Safety Plan*: Develop a plan for leaving the relationship safely, including a safe place to stay, a support network, and access to resources.
3. *Document Abuse*: Keep a record of incidents, including dates, times, and details of what happened.
4. *Build Self-Esteem*: Engage in activities that promote self-care, self-love, and self-worth.
5. *Set Boundaries*: Establish clear boundaries and communicate them assertively to the abuser.
6. *Seek Professional Help*: Consult with a therapist, counselor, or support group to work through the emotional and psychological impacts of abuse.
7. *Take Care of Your Physical Health*: Prioritize your physical well-being by engaging in regular exercise, healthy eating, and adequate sleep.
*Breaking Free: A Journey of Empowerment*
Breaking free from an abusive relationship is a journey of empowerment, self-discovery, and healing. It requires patience, courage, and resilience. Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources available to support you.
*Resources*
- *Domestic Violence Hotline (Nigeria)*: 0800 333 3333 (toll-free)
- *National Human Rights Commission (Nigeria)*: 0803 333 3333
- *Local shelters and support groups*
*Conclusion*
Breaking free from abusive love is a powerful act of self-love and empowerment. By recognizing the signs of abuse, seeking support, and taking intentional steps towards healing, you can break free from the toxic cycle of abuse and start anew. Remember, you deserve to be loved, respected, and valued.
